My Korean Mama Says "Don't Date A Guy In White Shoes"
She told me not to, and yet I did.....
My Korean Mama says: "Don’t date a man in white shoes."
I was the typical “good” girl attracted to the “bad” boy.
My serious, hard-working nature was lacking fun, thrill and adventure. Where did I go to find this?
Salsa dancing! Now that is a place to find many men in white shoes. 😆
You better be an exceptional dancer with great footwork to wear white shoes, because they draw attention. I’m thinking......here is this man who is devoted and dedicated to their craft. Such great qualities in a partner.
My ex-husband LOVES to wear white shoes, on and off the dance floor.
Well, I hate to admit that my mama was right. She didn’t give me explicit reasons why not to date a man that wears white shoes, but this is what I have deduced from that statement:
A man who love to wear white shoes ~
- Craves attention. Needs to be seen, praised, glorified. Of course, all of us need this, but this man has unhealthy deficiencies that are never satisfied.
- Puts himself first, and that’s about it. Look, I’m all about self-care and putting myself first, but then I follow up with others next. My ex only thought of himself. And in a relationship (as this post is about dating a man like this), you must also consider the other partner. Otherwise, there isn’t really a relationship.
- Has Charisma, the scary kind. This is the blown-up, fake self-confidence. Underneath they have low self-worth and no identity. It’s a pretty shell on the outside that is nothing but hollow on the inside.
- Inconsiderate to the needs of others. Oh, my big pet peeve is when someone can’t read the room, recognize and respond to the needs of others. This person thinks the world revolves around them, and everyone else is a prop or accessory. All persons exist to serve them.
Thanks to my mama and painful life experiences, I will think twice before dating a man with white shoes.
Pay attention to what’s behind all the bling. Is it genuine self-expression or inflated ego?